“A woman was told by her priest to NOT wear her veil to Mass. It was blessed and so she didn’t know if she was required by obedience to not wear it, or since because it was blessed she should ignore his request. I believe she stopped when he gave a scorching homily about women trying to seem holier than thou by what they wear to church.”
First, shame on that priest.
While there is nothing that requires a woman to cover her head in church (except perhaps for Paul’s inspired words in 1 Corinthians), neither is there anything to prohibit a woman from covering her head.
Moreover, there is nothing immodest about these head coverings. On the contrary.
Moreover, there is a long and well-founded tradition of women wearing a head covering.
The blessing of the veil would not make a difference insofar as obedience is concerned. Father doesn’t have the authority to tell her what she can wear on her head unless it is patently immodest.
Does he also tell women that they cannot wear makeup or jewelry? Those are certainly vanities, whereas a head covering is meant to obscure rather than to reveal.
And I doubt that Father is psychic so that he can read the hearts of women… the most obscure of all mysteries to men, come to think about it.
Father ought to mind his own business and see to himself and how he is appareled.
Does Father wear the proper vestments for liturgical worship and dress properly as a cleric?
I don’t know who this priest is, but I suspect the answers to the above are “No” and “No”.
Does he similarly preach about the beachwear worn by the rest of the non-veil wearing congregation?
I’ll bet he doesn’t.
Anyone who wears, say, shirts with the flashy logos of their favorite teams is also saying: “Hey! Look at me and think about something that has nothing to do with why we are in church!”
Maybe Father is distracted by the beauty of modest women in veils. In that case, I recommend two solutions to his problem. First, back in the day and today in traditional circles priests were instructed to keep their eyes lowered while processing and while saying Mass. Second, stop saying Mass facing the people and start saying Mass ad orientem!
These could help him with either his distraction or his misogyny.
(The comment section on this topic at Fr Z’s blog is worth reading too.)